Let’s chat about #MOMFAIL days today, shall we?
When I first meet someone and tell them about my former life as a professional organizer (and my current life as an organizing blogger), I can count on one of two responses:
“Oh wow, I could really use your help!”
“I bet your house is always perfect.”
I cringe when I imagine how
appalled surprised they’d be if they could only see how my house actually looks most some days. As much as I do have it together when it comes to organizing my home, there are certainly other aspects of homekeeping where I’m falling short. If you’re a longtime reader, you already know about my ongoing struggle with meal planning. Although I’ve put forth a lot of effort to improve in that department, the truth is, it’s still a struggle.
In days gone by, I used to pride myself on being a clean freak. During my “pre-kiddo” life, you could eat off my kitchen floor. Things started to go downhill after the kids came along, but the level of household cleanliness was tolerable during the years that I wasn’t working. But now that I’m attempting to balance motherhood, homekeeping, and all of the things that go along with running the blog, here’s a taste of what it looks like around here these days:
Unmade beds…(looks a little different than in the styled room makeover reveal shots, eh?)
dishes in the sink…(the irony is that I’ve been writing all about kitchen organization this month!)
…and dirty laundry on the floor (you can have the most organized bedroom closet in the world, but getting my kiddos to actually use the hamper is apparently still beyond my reach):
It really starts to get out of control during times when the I’m tackling a major project, either on the blog or in our home (like painting the laundry room this week).
Right now, I’m feeling like those brave celebrity women who let the world see them without a stitch of makeup on. It’s painful to put my watermark on these images and send them off into cyberspace for the world to see. So why am I doing it?
Like the naked-faced celebrity women, I want you to see that when you pull back the curtain, the vision you have in your head about others having it more together than you is just NOT true.
I know that (like me) many of you struggle with this balancing act of wife/Mom/homemaker/professional. I also know that we tend to beat ourselves up when we don’t live up to our
high unrealistic expectations. Whether you’re struggling with disorganization, a dirty house, keeping up with the laundry, or getting meals on the table, know this:
We’re not alone in feeling this way, AND we’re doing better than we think!
To prove it to you, I invite you to check out this brand new (and free!) video series created by two moms who’ve experienced their fair share of #MOMFAIL moments. Stephanie and Beth are not only popular bloggers; they’re also moms in the trenches like us. Between the 2 of them, they’ve got 8 kids and almost 20 years of mothering/homemaking experience.
They’ve put together an honest, candid and incredibly encouraging series of three videos just for moms. It’s called “The Truth About #MomFail Culture: 10 Things You Need to Hear on the Hard Days”. Each video is short – around 10 minutes, and you can watch it on any sort of device and whenever you’ve got a few spare minutes.
The major takeaway that I found helpful was the reminder to not let my “failures” define me, and that I can’t expect to be rocking every. single. aspect of homemaking/motherhood. I especially enjoyed listening to video #3, where Stephanie and Beth share the “less than ideal” meals that they’ve served their families over the past few years (suddenly, I don’t feel alone!).
I truly benefitted from hearing their fresh perspective and encouragement (they really do get it!) , and I’m sincerely hope you will too.
To watch the video series, just click this link. You’ll get access to the first video today, and then one per day after that.
Here’s to removing the #MOMFAIL hashtag from our life!
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